According to the National Library of Medicine, an estimated 6.7 million Americans aged 65 and older are living with Alzheimer’s disease. A 2022 Columbia University study states that one in ten seniors in that same age range are living with some form of dementia. These numbers are only expected to grow.
When a loved one is diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease or dementia, it can be devastating for families. Many families don’t understand how dementia will affect their loved one, where to get help, or how to care for and support their loved one. In addition, many families struggle with the effects dementia has on the relationships they have with their loved ones.
As the disease progresses, maintaining a solid and meaningful relationship with someone living with dementia requires patience, empathy, knowledge, and support. However, these relationships can still be fulfilling and enriching. Here’s how.
To support and maintain a strong relationship with someone living with dementia, it’s essential to become educated about the disease. Dementia is a general term for conditions that impair memory, thinking, behavior, and emotion. Alzheimer’s disease is the most common type of dementia, and dementia primarily affects people 65 years and older.
Signs of dementia include:
Dementia affects everyone differently, and all these symptoms can affect relationships in different ways. Educating yourself about dementia can provide insight into their experiences and help you respond more effectively to their needs.
Patience and empathy are vital when interacting with someone living with dementia. As their cognitive abilities decline, they may become easily confused, moody, or agitated. Rather than correcting them or expressing frustration, put yourself in their shoes and practice empathy. Listen carefully to what they are saying and wait patiently for their response if you ask a question.
Participating in shared activities can strengthen your bond and provide joy for both of you.
Engage in activities your loved one enjoys and can still join in, such as listening to music, gardening, or beloved hobbies. Tailor activities to their current abilities and adjust as necessary.
Caring for someone with dementia is physically and mentally demanding. It can be easy for caregivers to focus only on caring for their loved ones while neglecting their health and well-being. However, caring for yourself and your loved one is essential.
Take some alone time and engage in activities you love. Don’t be afraid, feel guilty, or hesitate to ask friends and family for help when needed. You can’t give your loved one the care, attention, and support they need and deserve without practicing a little self-care.
If you feel anxious, overwhelmed, depressed, or resentful, seek professional help from your physician, a therapist, or join a support group. In addition, memory care communities like Allegro’s Ensemble Memory Care are an invaluable source of support for people with dementia and their families. Their memory care program provides a warm, friendly, and nurturing atmosphere with trained associates who take the time to know residents personally. Life skill centers engage residents and prompt pleasant memories.
Dementia is a progressive disease. Accept that your loved one’s personality and capabilities may change over time. Be willing to adapt and adjust as needed.
Maintaining a strong relationship with someone living with dementia requires knowledge, participation in meaningful activities, patience, and empathy. A dementia diagnosis will change the dynamics of your relationship with your loved one. Although this journey may be challenging, it is possible to provide support and maintain a solid and meaningful relationship with a loved one living with dementia.
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